tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post4667403448301935620..comments2023-04-15T05:10:36.886-05:00Comments on From the heart: Fading to gray...joannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06572055765904705560noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-53553094962550600652009-01-25T12:11:00.000-06:002009-01-25T12:11:00.000-06:00Jan - Apparently, you and Steve Martin have more i...Jan - Apparently, you and Steve Martin have more in common than you realize! He says almost your exact same idea in Parade magazine today... It's an interesting insight from both of you, I think.<BR/><BR/>"I wouldn't make the same jokes about horrible things today that I would 30 years ago. When I was younger, I hadn't seen so much of other people's pain. Now I think twice. It's not political correctness. I don't care about that. I call it empathy."joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06572055765904705560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-63051939863813148992009-01-24T20:45:00.000-06:002009-01-24T20:45:00.000-06:00Some of us were raised to see everyone as "differe...Some of us were raised to see everyone as "different" from us. I grew up with the "Dutch" measuring stick, and GA had it's own measuring stick.<BR/>It took me a while to realize it was actually okay to identify with someone else's humanity and to be able to empathize with them and to realize we had more in common than not. <BR/>It's a learning process for some of us. <BR/><BR/>Hope you don't mind my interjection here. Carry on... These are really interesting discussions and thoughts. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-5961460432219931902009-01-22T14:56:00.000-06:002009-01-22T14:56:00.000-06:00But when you're trying to get to know someone b/c ...But when you're trying to get to know someone b/c they're "different" from you, it's a form of saying, "hey, you're different from me." Why not just treat everyone the same, rather they're different or not?Jim Haanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15716344857631254698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-84332125593852450512009-01-21T14:38:00.000-06:002009-01-21T14:38:00.000-06:00We do reduce each other more to differences than s...We do reduce each other more to differences than similarities sometimes, I think. Which, as you point out, has the potential to be more destructive than helpful.<BR/><BR/>But on the flip side, whether you are looking for similarities or differences, it's hard to see a people group (ethnicity, gender, career, whatever type) as individual persons if you've never met a single one! To say that we totally understand them after just meeting, or even becoming friends or spending 3 months in their country - that is arrogant. But to go far enough out of your way to meet them, talk to them, visit their country, maybe that speaks to loving them as your neighbors...?<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the thoughts, James :).joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06572055765904705560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-2861390246273902022009-01-18T21:39:00.000-06:002009-01-18T21:39:00.000-06:00do we really have to "interact and be-friend those...do we really have to "interact and be-friend those that choose a life that is completely unlike our own...to truly understand belief systems.." ??? Just because you become friends with a black person, or study abroad in a foreign country, do you really understand anything? By doing this, you're really just reducing them to their differences rather than seeing them as a person. I think about lots of kids that study abroad and thinks they're really "experiencing" the culture when they're really projecting an arrogant attitude on the culture by saying "oh, I've spent three months in that country, I totally understand this culture." Maybe if you just keep an open mind and realize that everyone has different experiences in their lives we'll understand enough. I think a good interpretation of "loving your neighbor as yourself" is seeing the humanity in every individual rather than pointing out that they're different by "seeking to understand" them.Jim Haanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15716344857631254698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-55684233722414999242009-01-18T18:01:00.000-06:002009-01-18T18:01:00.000-06:00color...that's a nice thought--since I'm an artist...color...that's a nice thought--since I'm an artist! :) <BR/><BR/>totally empathize with you Joanna regarding being confused. And I agree--it seems being "right" has always been a goal...but not nessasarily "right"!!!! Great thoughts Danielle--that we will never really understand a holistic view of beliefs systems until we interact and befriend those with different beliefs!Leslie Kimblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06985140096464007612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-78848453079157952642009-01-18T14:54:00.000-06:002009-01-18T14:54:00.000-06:00Yes, the people I meet _really_ tweak my perspecti...Yes, the people I meet _really_ tweak my perspectives. Good point Danielle. I read The Giver a while back, I'll have to revisit it. Hmmm, color, never thought of that!joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06572055765904705560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-65676703281240352009-01-16T00:31:00.000-06:002009-01-16T00:31:00.000-06:00Perhaps you're moving from black and white to colo...Perhaps you're moving from black and white to color, like the boy in Lois Lowry's "The Giver." Have you read that?Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17070578562535678950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205552004273454290.post-70977500846162841292009-01-15T13:29:00.000-06:002009-01-15T13:29:00.000-06:00maybe it's the realization of the gray that leads ...maybe it's the realization of the gray that leads to understanding different walks of life. that understanding, in turn, dissipates the fear that perpetuates judgement and condemnation of others unlike ourselves. more than just within christianity, so many "issues" in our culture are taught in a black and white dichotomy which creates a measuring stick or standard by which to judge others as "right" or "wrong". until we interact with and befriend those that choose a life that is completely unlike our own, can we truly understand belief systems on a holistic, convoluted GRAY spectrum. it's a challenge; but positive change never comes without a little striving or conviction.daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13791886132259942097noreply@blogger.com